Have you ever noticed that while many men are good looking, only a handful have that certain “it” factor and stand apart from the rest?

There is something special about those chosen few that can make a woman melt. Some traits are obvious and others we subconsciously pick up on.

 

 

Confidence

 

A man who is self-confident and self-assured is a big turn on. Look at the way a man sits, stands or walks. Does he move in a confident manner?

A self-assured manner is so much more attractive than a mouse of a man who looks skittish, nervous and ready to run. Women are naturally drawn to confident men because they make them feel safe.

A man does not have to be six feet tall and gorgeous to have confidence in himself. Confidence shines through physical appearance and women love it.

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, however. Arrogant men are usually not magnetic at all and women give them a wide berth.

 

 

Grooming

 

Good grooming is important for anyone. We usually make up our minds about someone within the first few seconds of meeting them, so looking your best is important. A man with good hair, teeth and nails is attractive, especially if his clothes are clean and pressed.

A man does not have to be stunningly handsome to be “irresistibly magnetic” but it is best to make the most of what you have. Women are far more likely than men to notice anything lacking in grooming. Bad breath, dirty nails or stained clothing are not the look to aim for. Deodorant and cologne are good but not if there is too much. A subtle hint of manly essence is what appeals to most women, not Old Spice making their eyes water from 20 feet away.

 

 

Great Eye Contact

 

Eye contact is one of those things it is important to get just right. Too little makes you appear disinterested.

Too much can make you seem like intimidating stalker material. A man who keeps his eyes on the woman he is talking to about 80% of the time will come across as being interested and seem attractive to her.

Also, it goes without saying that eye contact should be with the woman’s eyes, not with her chest.

 

 

Respectful of Her Space

 

When a woman first meets a man, she does not want him too close. This makes her feel threatened. About an arm’s length away is ideal.

If she feels comfortable with him being closer, she will move towards him. Women don’t like men who are too touchy-feely straightaway either.

The occasional light touch on the arm or equivalent is usually fine but don’t get too personal too quickly. A woman likes to be left wanting more, not feeling pawed.

 

 

Gentleman

 

All women love to be treated like ladies. Being a gentleman will never go out of fashion.

Women love doors being opened for them. They love it when a man insists on paying the bill (they can talk him out of it – it’s the initial offer that counts). It is hard to act like a gentleman if you are a slob. A woman can tell a true gentleman and they love it.

 

Interested in Her

 

Some guys love to talk about themselves. In fact, all guys probably do, but it is important to limit this. Women like being asked questions about themselves. It makes them feel that the guy is interested in them and not just in the sound of his own voice.

A man with a genuine interest in a woman comes across as being very attractive. It is important to be articulate and interesting but just relax. Conversations should come naturally and not be forced.

 

 

Silence is Golden

 

A conversation is a two way process and silences are inevitable.

A guy with a magnetic personality will be comfortable with the odd pause in the conversation, maybe fill it with a smile or an appreciative look, but it is a mistake to twitter on in a panic, trying to fill every gap in the conversational flow. Magnetic men ooze confidence in their speech and conversational habits and are comfortable with the odd pause.

A magnetic man will never interrupt a woman, either. This implies that what he has to say is more important than what she is saying. To be magnetic, it is vital to be a good listener.

 

 

Humor

 

Women love a funny guy. I don’t mean one who is doing somersaults around the room, juggling dinner plates or doing gorilla impressions, but rather a man who can be witty. Women love men who make them laugh. Nearly everyone has a sense of humor.

A man with a magnetic personality knows when to joke and when to be serious. Subtle humor is far preferable to cheesy jokes, especially of the sexist kind. Women love humor and will come back for more.

 

Don’t Be Nosy

 

There are few conversational traits a woman hates more than a nosy man on the first meeting. They don’t want to be asked about previous relationships, sexual habits or anything too personal.

A man who is magnetically attractive will stick to topics such as interests and hobbies. Too much prying puts a woman into caution mode, wondering why the man needs to know all that.

 

~Ken Bangler